When should I introduce my new partner?

There are many common concerns associated with introducing your new partner to your children. It can be a difficult process deciding the right time and the right approach to take when doing so. In addition, new partners can affect the view of your former spouse, the other parent, about whether you are appropriately caring for the children’s emotional needs.

Marilyn Stowe, an English family lawyer, highlights a number of key considerations that must be dealt with prior to the introduction of a new partner to your children.[1]

It is important to consider the seriousness of your relationship and whether you see a future with your partner. If you are in a happy and stable relationship, you will be in a better position to introduce your partner to your children.

Before the introduction, you should have a conversation with your children to explain the situation, listen to their feelings and concerns and ensure they are comfortable with the situation. It is important to reassure them that they will still be your main priority.

As recommended by Marilyn Stowe, the first few meetings should occur in a neutral setting where everyone can be involved in an age-appropriate activity.[2] This will allow your children to become comfortable around your new partner, before they are invited into your home.

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[1] https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/blog/2020/01/29/when-should-i-introduce-a-new-partner-to-my-children/

[2] https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/blog/2020/01/29/when-should-i-introduce-a-new-partner-to-my-children/

Rowan Skinner

About Rowan Skinner

Rowan Skinner is a highly skilled family lawyer with over 35 years of experience across various legal roles and jurisdictions. Rowan specialises in resolving family law disputes such as divorce, financial settlements, child custody and domestic violence cases. Through his diverse and extensive experience, Rowan has a deep understanding of the complexities and nuances involved in family law. Rowan is a skilled negotiator and litigator who follows a compassionate and client-focused approach which prioritises helping you navigate what can be an emotional and challenging time.